Dear Friends I am writing this to let you know I am OK. We as a family have been getting to know each other and working side by side in many ways.
First we have been learning language,communication. Everyone who is interested in adoption "LEARN THE LANGUAGE" I made a BIG mistake and did not know enough.
Second we have been learning behavior. For some children having a parent watch them or care about them is NEW. Manners are not something children learn without training and they do not take to discipline well. Even if it is out of love.
Finally ATTITUDE, well. I have learned that attitudes are not always matching the expression on your child's face. A straight face might mean they have nothing on their minds, but I am not one to let it ride. I also realize that sometimes you need to say NO even when they do not understand. This is not only for adoptive children but for biological children too.
When you bring anyone home the family changes, when you bring in two new children the same ages as your bio kids EVERYTHING changes.
My oldest bio child, LeAnn 12, stepped up and is a HUGE help. She has been a support and a help. I know she is a tad bit stressed at times but she always is willing to help.
Mebrate my older adoptive child 12, she is getting to a point were I think she feels I am here to help and love her. She gets sad sometimes when she listens to Ethiopian music so I had to hid it and only put it on when we are together.
My third youngest, Laryssa 10, she is empty. I have seen such a big change in her. She is crying so much more and I think she feels that her everything was taken. She has one MORE older sister and a younger brother. So her next in line was given to Mebrate and her baby role was given up to Roba. I did not do this but I see her actions are screaming "WHAT ABOUT ME!!!" I have tried to take her aside, do something with only her, but she will include everyone. Please pray for her little heart.
Roba is my son. He is the first Kocis boy in the house and he is all BOY! It is hard when he gets confused. I can see it in his eyes and then come the tears. Our neighborhood is the best we have every nation all around. He can go out the front door and hang for hours, everyone loves him and he loves everyone. I do have one thing that I need prayer for. Every now and again he will say, "I want to go home" I respond ... You are here! I hope I get over the personal blow, he doesn't mean it I know. Well I think I covered everything I have. Please continue to pray for all of my children, my husband, and myself. I know God called me to this task and this family and I really want to honor HIM.
Thank you everyone
Good night
Bridget